Finding oneself is hard. It’s messy. It’s undesirable. Because when you truly find yourself, you learn to accept the pieces that you refuse to admit are part of you. It is seeing the rawness of your being. It is facing your flaws and loving yourself more for them. It is embracing the things about yourself that you try to deny because they make you feel inadequate.

We are all on our own journeys and no one’s journey is more special or any more worthwhile than the next person’s. Know that if you break down it does not mean that you’re weak or that you’re not worthy. It means you’re on your way to success, and this is just a roadblock you have to get over on the way there. Be grateful for what you have and who you are in this moment. 

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Instead of worrying and dwelling on mistakes you have made in the past and breaking down over people and circumstances that were out of control, worry about the present moment. Worry about the things you can do to change the path your life is taking, if you’re not happy with where it’s going. Yes, worry about yourself. Sometimes, you spend so long worrying about what other people were thinking, but you must understand that that they’re not thinking about you as much as you think they are. You have to realize that you’re the protagonist in your own life, but so is everyone else in their own lives. We place too much emphasis on self-projection and image when we should place all the emphasis on self-esteem and how we feel about ourselves.

We evolve through experiences. Ultimately, every interaction you have with other people or the world in general is going to change you. Some people may have these eureka moments. If you don’t, it doesn’t matter. You will never be the finished product because there is no such thing! We are always learning.

The most successful people you know have gone through major roadblocks at some point in their lives and they have gotten through them and emerged as new people at the end of it. You too can emerge as a new person. You’ll still be yourself at the end of this, only with newfound self-respect and self-confidence in the person that you are. Unfortunately, this moment comes only when we truly accept ourselves: a difficult feat to accomplish for each and every one on this earth.

The journey to self-discovery is a long one; one that most people haven’t even begun to encounter yet. If this resonates, it means that you’ve encountered struggle and pain in your life and you’ve started to think about healing and self-discovery. You’re a step ahead of everyone who hasn’t. It’s okay to feel lost, it’s okay to feel stuck, and it’s okay to feel helpless. Think of your life as a timeline of events. This breakdown of the events of your life will trigger your journey to self-discovery. And step by step, with each event, you will discover your true self and the essence of your existence here on earth. Learn to live in the now. There’s only a now, and we all have to make the best of it, no matter how difficult it seems. 

The exciting thing about this life is that you are always changing, always adapting, always reworking; don’t forsake that process trying to find a version of yourself that can’t possibly exist. You are who you are today. Embrace you. Love you. Know that tomorrow you may be different but you will still love yourself.

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30, a collection of poems by Jaachi Anyatonwu
Jaachị Anyatọnwụ
Jaachị Anyatọnwụ is a poet, editor, and publisher living in the suburbs of Aba. He is the author of numerous poetry chapbooks and collections, and the Editor-In-Chief of Poemify Publishers Inc. Jaachị is passionate about discovering new voices and mentoring emerging poets. He is also a fierce advocate for the boy child and sexually molested.

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